This is the #41 edition of our My Misophonia Story series. This week features Florence (51) from France. Each week we’ll feature a new reader story, so if you’d like to share yours, please drop us a line. Florence, take it away…
Where are you from?
What do you do for a living?
Software Test Analyst.
What are you passionate about / what are your hobbies?
How old were you when you first realised you had an issue with certain sounds?
When did you first find out it was called misophonia?
What are your 3 biggest triggers? [bg_collapse view=”link” color=”#eb9500″ icon=”arrow” expand_text=”Click to Show Triggers” collapse_text=”Click to Hide Triggers” ]Loud chewing, clicking jaws, Loud voices, Loud bass from car stereos. Also people chewing gum. Neurotic whistling next to me. I have to add: any man made water noises (not waterfalls or rain), screaming children, and people playing music in the wilderness[/bg_collapse]
Do you have any other sensory quirks?
Cannot watch movies using animals as main characters (worried about animal exploitation).
Really bothered by fake microwave popcorn smell as well as car/truck exhaust smells and cheap perfume lingering smells.
Have you told other people about your misophonia and if so what was their reaction?
I told my husband yesterday, and it turns out he has it too to a much lesser extent, he does a really good job with it. I never even knew. He is much more tolerant than me. He felt relieved when I told him about it because he felt more accepting of his own symptoms immediately. He has always been very patient with mine all the while we were not able to put a name on them.
What’s your funniest/most ridiculous misophonia-related moment?
Never found them funny nor ridiculous-just painful, distressing, and time consuming.
What helps you to cope with your misophonia?
Telling my husband, venting on my own, confronting people about their coarse behaviours, leaving the place with a dramatic exit.
What are your misophonic superpowers?
I have to find off the road paths in every aspect of my life. I surround myself with kind and well mannered people and hike/ski away from the frequented paths or trails or ski runs. It means that I will enjoy more of nature’s beauties without seeing (too many) coarse people.
My allergy to man made noises forces me to constantly question our modern lifestyle and constantly seek to stay true to my human nature.
What’s the single most useful piece of misophonia related advice you’ve learnt?
Get a high end noise isolating headphone.
What’s your very best life hack?
Do not buy salad dressing. Make your own: quality olive oil, cider vinegar, Dijon mustard, your choice of herb, salt, pepper. Pour everything in a glass jar, shake well. Store in fridge.
Is there anything else you’d like to share with your fellow misophones?
Misophonia is labeled as a disorder, and that pains me a little. I still consider it as a way of refusing the ridiculous amount of man made noises that we have to put up with. Some people do better at coping than others. I seem to be very sensitive to these nuisances, and in my idea, when my body tells me “I don’t like this noise”, I trust it has good reasons for refusing that noise.
It’s for me to find ways in this noisy world to keep my body and mind sane. I am not saying I always succeed, but I made much progress with the door slamming annoyance, and I am good at finding restaurants where people are most likely to have manners.
For me, misophonia is one piece of the puzzle of my ultra sensitive personality that I am still trying to become friends with.
I react strongly, or stronger than most, to everyday life stimuli. That’s me, that’s how I am, and I am on the whole so happy to spot a little bird sing a beautiful song, or to be moved by little things few notice. I much prefer to be an ultra sensitive person than a hypo sensitive. No judgment of course.
And finally! The quick fire round…
Favourite place you’ve visited:
I visited Northern New Mexico last year, could not believe my eyes. It took me 8 months to move here.
Something, Al Green
L’Assommoir, Emile Zola
Favourite work of art:
5 things you couldn’t live without:
Oysters, Skies, My Aerial Silk, Sailing, Closeness to Nature