Help to manage this condition

Home Page Forums Misophonia Forum Help to manage this condition

  • This topic is empty.
Viewing 4 posts - 1 through 4 (of 4 total)
  • Author
  • #1015476 Reply

      To see this site and realise that it’s not just me that seems to find so many noises cause me to feel a mix of non desirable emotions (irritation, annoyance, disgust, anger, desire to leave the room , become anxious at being around anyone) has been a relief. My main concern is that it’s wreaking my relationships with people as I have become very insular thinking that I’m just better off on my own as I can remove myself from outside triggers without issue or explanation.
      My marriage is really suffering as a result of this, although my wife is aware some noises get to me she has no idea about how severe it’s become since covid lockdown. Sometimes she will do things (like eat crisps) when I’m out of the room but other times she won’t bother and I feel the anger raising inside me as she crunches. As time goes on more and more noises seem to affect me. (My mum flicks her nails as she chats and it really gets to me) I’m also finding repeated movements like tapping a foot in the air causes the same reaction. Why is this? How can I manage this better before it wreaks my life?

      #1015499 Reply

        Hello Lisa,

        I want to say that I understand what you are going through. It is awful and truly crippling and isolating. The rage I feel is instant and I would give hulk a run for his money! I think you need to have a very honest conversation with your wife and come armed with some research on misophonia to substantiate what you’re saying. I eat entirely separately from my family and I’ve just had to accept that that is the way it is. I am more comfortable, they are more comfortable. Over time you get used to it and it doesn’t feel so strange. She needs to understand what your triggers are and how she can help. You have to be honest with her, otherwise, your resentment and anger will become worse. Like you, my auditory triggers have now grown to include visual triggers. I hate to see people licking their lips, or my partner scrunch up his toes – honestly, where do we get these triggers from eh?!

        People say having earplugs really helps. I like to have lots of noise rather than a lack of noise if that makes sense. I have the radio on constantly and have white noise on at night. I don’t sleep in the same room as my partner as they snore and I couldn’t cope. You need to make adjustments so you feel calm and comfortable and those closest to you need to be considerate of that and make changes to accommodate you. They would if this was a physical disability that they could see.

        In terms of treatment, I hear some people talk about CBT and counselling. I’m really hoping a miracle happens and there is some sort of breakthrough soon.

        #1015565 Reply

          I have really bad misophonia often mixed with misokinesia, BUT i think iam pretty good in mimicking/imitating others behaviour in a way people find funny. I work at small forensic lab+office and i often do these small scenes when iam playing characters from our institution (boss, workers) and my coworkers find it really funny and their are like: wow, hilarious i barely notice this guy is doing this but yes he does it every time.
          So this positive thing about this, but iam suffering a lot every day and its getting worse as i get older (26 right now).

          #1015733 Reply
          craig muir

            I can’t recommend the quieton 3 active noise cancelling earbuds highly enough. They are the only earbuds that keep out most of the noise and even loud noises to a manageable level. They are relatively expensive but well worth it. I have tried nearly everything but now use these most of the day and while I sleep. In my opinion it eradicates about 90% of daily noise. Takes a little bit of time to get used to them but if you are used to standard foam earplugs then it shouldn’t be much of a transition. If you want nearly 100% noise cancellation you can put ProCase ear defenders on top which are only around £15. Reduces the comfort level by a good margin but if you need near silence to concentrate or stop brain fog due to anxiety then this is the only solution that works for me.

          Viewing 4 posts - 1 through 4 (of 4 total)
          Reply To: Help to manage this condition
          Your information: