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alex

I’m sorry to intervene so late.
I suffer from hypreacussis or miso most of my life, i’m 35. First i was allergic to people ,family eating, chewing hard and smacking the forks and spoons of the crockery. They did this hard as they were always on hurry and agitated people.
Speaking at the table continously while eating, in our culture it’s usual. I had to endure as a child (until in my 18-19s) as even though i was not a bad child i got punished for lots of things the hard way. I always felt different, maybe that’s why i don’t resonate easily with most people past my teen years.

Now i ;m married for years, no kids, and my wife knows that i got this sensitivity but asks to never ever know of it or not to adjust in any way. I can’t control it it’s a nevous reacton when i hear neighbouts making hard sounds, which she hates also.
She is eating with lots of smashing, raising up from the table to the fridge again, washing her hands 2 times during a single eating and reallly touching lots of object with no reason, like getting items from a place to another whlist she just needed to take one, again going up and down and going again to the table with another pot during the meal . I know i have sensitivy but mostly about gestures reppeated with no sense.
Like i dont get why would she almost always eat fast, smashing the spoon and rolling the plate on the table like a soldier not like a woman.

Problem is that: at one point, i endure like 20 minutes and i go to my room, i don’t close the door and i wait for her to settle. She become always aggitated and aks why i leave, am i upset by the sound? Now i don t say i m upset as she always react badly and humblwes me and points at me. Even so, she told me that she s very upset I left and she leaves home, as she wants to punish me this way. For this matter we separated 2 time for weeks, and I feel that i cannot do anything.
I cannot react better than this: It always is hard enough to go and not say anythingn, my brains is so in pain to endure even as much. I feel guilty and i cannot know what to do: she doesn’t want to understand what it s like even if she is very educated in medicine, so I really have no hope of treatment.

I did go to the medic I got medicines that i could n take as it woudl make me sleepy as hell like Stugeron and Trittico. I knw the side effect are highly unreversable and they only limit you. I have to study and cannot concentrate really well, as i forget easyly what i read.
So I wish i knew what do yo usuggest, as going to theraphy really din’t help me alot. I feel this is just bull@@@@ trying to self gratify which does nto work on logical individuals as i consider myself.