How are you?
I have suffered from both (still ongoing I am in in my 40s) since I was a teenager. I can’t recall exactly what age I was when it started and which thing bothered me but I have quite a few examples. I have never told anyone. I only started to research it on the web a few years ago, back then I bookmarked this website only to come back to it in the last few days. I didn’t know it was a thing I thought it was just me.
I’d be happy to share much more this is just to get things started. Have you told your wife you have this condition? (I haven’t told mine or anyone from my family, not sure how they would take it, if they would take it seriously..)
Let me know if you (and others welcome) are up for chatting further.